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Anonymous asked in Family & RelationshipsFamily · 2 months ago

Did i do anything wrong?

I had an abusive family who ruined my childhood.

I got a call from my sister last year and that my father passed away and i must come to his funeral and i just told her i dont care and I'm not interested.

And i never went which led to my family members hating me more and calling me a bad son.

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  • Pearl
    Lv 7
    2 months ago

    i wouldve just gone so they wouldnt be hating you now

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  • 2 months ago

    No one can answer your question without knowing more about the type of abuse that you suffered

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  • 2 months ago

    who cares, u didnt go, ur choice. who cares if they hate u, ur not active in their lives anyway.

    I hate when people act like we should instantly pretend to be a family cause someone died.

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  • 2 months ago

    You had a good reason not to go. I don't see anything wrong with that. If they call you a bad son to your father - so what? He wasn't a good father to you. If they are saying this because your mother is upset about losing him (she must have cared for him) then perhaps the 'bad son' name-calling is because of your mother who may have wanted you to share her sorrow. I suppose it depends on how you view your mother. If you feel the same as you do about your father.....no problem. You have discarded your family more or less - so no change. If you care for your mother, write to her expressing your sadness that she is upset at the loss of her husband - but tell her you did not want to be a hypocrite by paying respects to a man you had no respect for because of abuse during your childhood years. We all make our own decisions in life and others just have to accept it.

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