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Anonymous asked in Family & RelationshipsMarriage & Divorce · 2 months ago

my husband is mad that i don't want sex and idk what to do.?

a couple months ago i decided i didn't want to have sex anymore (because neither of us want kids yet and i hate sex) what should i do, i consider porn cheating, and so does he, 

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  • 2 months ago
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    Go to the doctor. Your hatred of sex could actually be a medical problem that could be fixed.

  • ANDREW
    Lv 5
    2 months ago

    You dont want sex Cos you hate it? What about your partners feelings? Fair enough if you don’t that’s your choice but considering you've given him it then stopped a is a bit sh!tty, it’s your choice but don’t expect him to agree if he wants a relationship with sex and you don’t then it’s best you part and find compatible partners 

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  • 2 months ago

    Look. if you don't want sex but don't want him to have sex with someone else, then you're going to have to be 100% with each other. Get a divorce. There is not a simpler solution to it if your wants and needs are this far apart from each other. You need to find someone who's okay with not having sex, and he needs someone who wants it. Asking either one of you to change on this point is unhealthy.

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  • 2 months ago

    I predict your going to be divorced before very long-two yrs max-

     If you don't try to Fix yourself-

     You hate sex but are Not trying to find out WHY--

     Your still of child bearing age so it's not an age related problem-

      Get yourself to a doctor/Shrink or Something--Now-

      

      

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    • finc2 months agoReport

      Liberals are weird ..They justify premarital and extramarital sex and consider marital sex a sin. 

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  • 2 months ago

    Porn is not cheating cut that damn lie or thought out please, see a doctor or ask yourself is bad memory or someone did something yo you in the past why you hate sex, having a husband no sex is like a Xbox one no internet 

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    • finc2 months agoReport

      yeah "porn is not cheating " and I bet you also say "abortion is not murder " and "marriage doesn't have to be between man and woman". Liberals have redefined morality .and the consequences are horrible ! Look at the high rates of aborted children, single motherhood, divorce , STD, domestic violence

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  • 2 months ago

    Start reflecting and try to gain some understanding for why you hate sex, otherwise your relationship will spiral out of control. I stay with a guy, without any sex for nearly 1 year, before calling an end to it (for more reasons that just sex). Anyhow, I was dying for sex over the final 6months. My BF and I fought a few times over it, and he always said, at the end of our fight, that he wanted a more sexual relationship, that he just hadn't been tempting me, because he wanted me to communicate and bring it up. He wanted me to bring it up, because he had the feeling it wasn't going to last and didn't want to cause the strong emotions that intercourse often causes. Well, within a week or 2, I'd try to initiate and he'd humiliate me with rejection; "why the hell are you rubbing me near my crotch", or just "stop". I'd try to talk about it, by telling him how much I wanted sex, in a really nice easy-going manner, and he'd say "I'm sorry sweety" and change the subject, or it would escalate into a fight.

    Anyhow, I couldn't take it anymore. Til this day I wonder what was really going on with him, since he often told me he loved me.

    A healthy woman should want sex, otherwise you're not with the right man. I love sex, but I can't just sleep with anyone either; I need to form a relationship and feel a spark with the guy.

    • luke2 months agoReport

      he's too big, i liked sex when i was with an average guy

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  • PAMELA
    Lv 7
    2 months ago

    How about this--go onto to birth control and get him to wear a condom, your marriage will not last long otherwise.

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    • finc2 months agoReport

      Statistics show that people who marry as virgins have extremely low divorce rates ..Whereas people who have premarital sex and cohabit have high divorce rates.

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  • Start by trying to gain an understanding of why you hate sex (emotional, physical, other) and eventually your relationship will spiral out of control.

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  • n2mama
    Lv 7
    2 months ago

    If you hate sex and don’t ever want to have it again and he isn’t interested in a sexless marriage, you divorce. Sorry, but that’s an incompatibility that can’t be resolved. It’s unfair to expect him to accept no sex for the rest of his life, and it’s unfair to force yourself to have sex when you hate it. Divorce is the option.

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  • Anonymous
    2 months ago

    I don't like cleaning the toilets, but I do it anyway.  Withholding sex in a marriage can destroy your marriage, since it ends up being a form of mental torture for the spouse with a sex drive.  The less you have sex with him the more he will desire other women.  This is how we are biologically wired.  The two most common causes of divorce is sex and money.  

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